As the first snowflakes fall on this fine New England day in February, I reflect on how grateful and fortunate I am to have so much abundance in my life; Family, friends, health, and the fortune to be born in a country with great freedoms. First, I thank God for making everything possible. Next, I am grateful for having made some good choices in my life, but I am also thankful for some of the poor choices that taught me valuable lessons, like humility and resourcefulness.
While at times it may be easier to whine about the difficulties of life, I believe the hardest lesson of all is to remember that I am where I am because of the choices I have made and I own those choices along with the consequences they produced, for better or for worse. I am the product of my choices every step of the way. I am not who I am and where I am because of anything someone or something has done to me. My life is my life because I design it that way, whether through decision or through indecision.
Because I choose to be a person who takes responsibility for my beliefs, thoughts, words, actions, and results, I will never be the type of person who blames others, the government, the world, the weather, God, or some other entity for why my life is the way it is. Does this deny the idea that a meteor could land on my home and destroy everything I own in an instant; family, property, possessions, savings, etc.? Certainly not! Would that be within my power to control? Absolutely not! But…would I spend the rest of my life singing the ‘Somebody done me wrong’ song? No way!
Occasionally, will something happen that is completely out of your control and causes disaster in our lives? Will precious items get destroyed? Will people die? Will things be lost or stolen? Yes, of course. But, it is how we respond to and deal with these circumstances that define us and shape our lives. We can choose to cry about it all day, or pick ourselves up, put on some gloves, and get to work. This is not to say that we won’t or shouldn’t experience a period of mourning for great loss. That is only natural. But, to continue to mourn and cast blame only serves as a bandage that allows one to stop moving forward indefinitely.
I encourage you to take control of your life by owning your decisions and your results. If you are not where you want to be, then make some changes. Lose that weight. Get that education. Start your own business. Find a good person to love. Get into therapy. Hire a life coach. Fire that lazy employee. Spend less and save more. Paint the kitchen. Clear out your basement. Buy a good book on personal development. Attend a seminar. Get off the recliner and do something.
You can do it! And, so can I. I’m not preaching from an ivory tower. I’m not perfect. I’m not making as much as I would like to. I still haven’t fixed the door on the tree house or finished building the stairs to the kids’ bedrooms (it’s only been about 3 years that I’ve been working on it). I own those results, or lack of. What I will not do is spend all my time on Facebook blaming the Democrats or Republicans or Taliban or ISIS or the stock market or the President…for how my life is. I refuse to give that much of my Personal Power to anyone. This is my life, and with God’s grace I will do the best I can to make it the best life possible for my family.
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